Eddie: Blogger Sara Dawkins joins us today to discuss some of the problems caused by school debt as and the effect on family well-being.
Parents with College Loans Raising Children
The financial burdens of the parents are those of the entire family. For every debt that is accrued by the parents, money is reduced to pay for the well-being of children. Having a college debt weighing over the heads of parents could cause a ripple effect in the family dynamic. Financial distress could only be a part of the problems that may arise from it.
Without a Plan For Growth
Parents can easily slip into a depression when they are unable to provide for their children. Although gift giving shouldn't be about presents, it can still break a parent's heart to not give the child everything they need or want. College loans can become a terrible burden if times are hard for the parents. A child can be impacted in a variety of ways from something that could have accrued long before they were born.
1. Anger Management - Without methods to cope with the frustration a parent could feel due to the lack of usable income, angers could easily flare. Children can pick up on the emotional states of the parent quite easily and this could be detrimental to his or her understanding of the world.
A parent without the means to control anger could otherwise snap at the child for some of the smallest things. The parent may not realize he or she is doing it, but the child begins to form their own impression about reality. Self-control is key to managing the anger.
2. Depression - A child can sense when the parent is depressed. Although they will try to hide it as best they can, the child will still be impacted from the feelings expressed by the parent. Perpetual sadness is no way for anyone to live and drowning in debt is a cause for feelings of hopelessness in many people around the globe.
3. Social Activities - In order for children to be productive and understanding members of society, they need social interaction. While this social interaction can come from school, there is something to be said about extracurricular activities. A parent unable to pay for some of these activities could be inadvertently robbing a child of an experience he or she will remember for the rest of their lives. It could even go as far as to alter their own paths of social interaction later in life.
Keeping Focus on What Needs to Be Done
Although the above could be harmful to the development of a child, there could also be some good from the experience. If a parent can keep a level head and take care of what needs to be done, the child doesn't have to live with any adverse effects.
1. Perspective - If a child is raised in a healthy family, regardless of monetary situations, they can learn to appreciate what they have. Although money is mandatory in today's society for survival, it doesn't have to be for happiness.
2. Non-materialistic - Many children who have everything given to them develop an attitude that they only need the best. Children who live in households with little money for extras can learn that it's not the material that induces survival.
3. Closer Bindings - A family that can bond together for entertainment purposes isn't separated by computer or console gaming habits. A stronger foundation can be built with togetherness over technological diversions.
Financial distress is a constant fear for many parents. There are methods and practices a parent can put into place to ease this burden. From consolidation loans to budget practices, life doesn't have to mean going without some of the finer things it has to offer. Ease the financial and emotional stress before it weighs too heavily on the child.
Sara Dawkins is an active nanny as well as an active freelance writer. She is a frequent contributor of http://www.nannypro.com/. Learn more about her http://www.nannypro.com/blog/sara-dawkins/.
Eddie: Nice article. Thank you Sara